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Wednesday, March 02, 2005

Saying Salams on Campus

Salami Salam
Written by: Hamzah Moin

Saying salams to the opposite gender on campus is actually quite the
trivial issue. Some scholars say that men should be required to
initiate the salams to the sister while other scholars say it should
be sister that should start off with the salams.

The following scenario looks at a common incident through different
points of view and what exactly is going on inside the minds of a
sister and a brother (in Islam).

Sister's Point of View:

**sister walks out of exam hall**

Oh my gyad, that chemistry test was so easy! I'm sooooo happy for
finishing my last exam. This is the happiest day of my life! LOL!

**a brother exits from opposite exam hall**

Oh, WHO is that? Is he Muslim? He has an ugly beard ewww. He looks
scary. And WHY is he walking this way? Oh my God he's headed straight
towards me! Okay, be calm… it's all normal. Just be polite and make
eye contact and…

BROTHER: Assalamu Alaikum
SISTER: Walaikum Musalam

OH MY GOD. He just said salams to me! No way it must have been to
someone else. Wait, but there is no one else around. OH MY GOD IT WAS
FOR ME. But why? Why would a random brother just say salams to me? It
just doesn't make sense. I've been wearing this hijab for ages… so why
the salams NOW?

Hmmm, this brother looks like he's almost done in under grad. Isn't
that the brother who got into med school? Wow he's so smart mashAllah.
Why would someone like that say SALAM to me? Was he just trying to be
nice? Hmmm.

OR maybe he was being MORE than nice. Yeah I think that has to be it.
OMG no way. Does he like me??? I've never seen him before but I
sometimes study in the science library so he probably saw me. Why
wouldn't he say salams to me then? Maybe he was waiting to become more
secure in his field before saying salams to me? I think that must be
it. He is no doubt scouting people… of course.

This is soooo weird lol. But mashAllah he's a good looking brother.
I'm sure he's pious. That beard looks good on him mashAllah. I wonder
if he's talked to his parents about me yet? I hope his parents will
like me. I'm a nice girl though. All the aunties love my personality

But if he lives far away then I might have to move close to his
parents' house because his job will probably be around there. Oh man
the change in life will be sooooo hard to get used to. I wonder if
he's going to live in his own place or if we're going to move in with
his parents? I wouldn't mind living with his parents ONLY if they're
open-minded. Uffff I hate close-minded people. I want to have nice

I hope he wants a simple Nikkah. I can't stand all that extravagant
crap that goes on nowadays. He seems very simple and down-to-earth
though mashAllah. Definitely my kind of man. I wonder how he is with
kids. I don't mind having kids but he better not be the type that
wants like 50 kids. OMG that would so suck. 3 is a good number. I like
the names Bilal , Mariam and Ayesha. InshAllah it'll be in that order.

I wonder if he's very science-y. I don't like when people are too
science-y. I think our kids should do anything they want as long as
they are successful. Bilal would make a good social worker I think.

He seems like the type that would always compliment my cooking, no
matter how bad it is lol J I hate guys who think women belong in the
kitchen. I think he'll help out once in awhile too. He seems so gentle
and delicate hahah.

Wow I hope when Bilal grows up he'll let me and that brother live with
him. I don't want to go to any retirement home! No inshAllah that
brother will instil good values into Bilal. But OMG should I wait
until he says salams again? I'm sure he'll make the first move.

Brother's Point of View.

**brother walks out of exam hall**

Wow. I think I failed that exam. I haven't shaven for days because of
these stupid exams. I look like a werewolf. Stupid science. I think
I'll switch into political science next year… I can't take this. Hey
is that a hijabi over there? Hmmm I think I should be polite and say

BROTHER: Assalamu Alaikum
SISTER: Walaikum Musalam

Man, I'm hungry. I wonder what's for dinner tonight? Hopefully spaghetti.


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