Wednesday, September 17, 2008

10 GREAT GOALS TO SET THIS RAMADHAAN

Eat, drink and be moderate

Almost all of us do it - once Iftaar time hits, we just keep
ploughing food and drink into our mouths till it's hard to move
afterwards. And those of us who do it know this is totally contrary
to the spirit of Ramadan, through which we're supposed to learn self-
control not self-indulgence. Let's try to stick to the Prophetic
rule on eating: fill our stomachs with one-third food, one-third
water and one-third breathing space, even in Ramadan.

2. Give a dollar a day in charity...or five or ten

The Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, was always
generous but even more so in Ramadan. Let's open our hearts and dig
a little deeper in our wallets this year. Even less than a dollar a
day adds up. Whatever you can give, it's the intention that counts.

3. Memorize 4 new Surahs of the Noble Quran

Memorizing the Quran often seems like a daunting task. But the key
is doing it in small bites. Since there are four weeks in Ramadan,
try to memorize one new Surah a week. Start off with a short, easy
one. Once you've started, you'll build momentum and may even want to
memorize a longer one the following week.

4. Go to Taraweeh prayers

Post-Iftaar, the first urge is to sleep after an exhausting day. But
try your best to head out to the mosque for Taraweeh prayers.
Praying alone is wonderful, but doing it in congregation is
fantastic. The community spirit is part of Ramadan's blessings.
Don't miss it this year. If going every day is not possible, try
going at least one week.

5. Attend the Taraweeh prayer in which the recitation of the Quran
will be finished

Call the local mosque and find out which day the Imam will be
finishing the recitation of the Quran in prayer. Attend to not only
hear part of the Quran's recitation in prayer, but also participate
in the heart-rending Duas that follow it.

6. Stop swearing and/or backbiting - with a special box

It's hard not to shoot our mouths off when someone's upset us.
Whether we utter those four-letter words or backbite about someone
to our family and friends, we know this isn't the God-approved way
of letting off steam. In Ramadan, when we want to build our
spirituality, we've got to wage Jihad against our bad habits.

Try this: get a box and every time you catch yourself swearing or
backbiting put some money in it. It could be a buck or less. The
point is to choose an amount that makes it feel like punishment.

At the end of the month send the money to a charity or buy a gift
for the person whom you've backbitten the most against.

7. Call/email your relatives

You'd think that given the easy access to email, competitive long-
distance calling rates, phone cards, etc. these days, we'd keep in
touch with family and friends more often. But the opposite seems to
be the case, as we get caught up in life's "busyness."

Strengthening ties with family members and keeping in touch with
friends is part of our way of life and an act Allah is very pleased
with. This Ramadan, call family and friends or at least email them
and ask them how their fasting is going.

8. Go on a technology diet

Even if you work in the IT industry, you can do this. Avoid checking
personal email and surfing the web during your fast. After Iftaar,
instead of plopping yourself in front of the screen, go to Taraweeh.
The same goes for the television. The point is to try to give our
full attention to spiritual elevation this month.

9. Read 5 minutes of Quran a day...just five, not more, not less

Even if you feel you've got absolutely no time, set a timer or the
alarm on your cell phone and find a relatively quiet place. You can
read the first page of the Quran you open or follow a sequence. The
choice is yours. The point is simply to connect with God through His
revelation in the month of the Quran.

10. Forgive everyone who has hurt you

Still got a festering wound from the fight with your friend last
year? Still upset about something your spouse said during a heated
argument? Or are you still bitter about the way your parents
sometimes treated you as a kid? Let go of the anger and pain this
Ramadan and forgive those who have hurt you. Forgiving someone is
not only good for the body, but it's also great for the soul. And in
Ramadan, ten days of which are devoted to Allah's forgiveness,
shouldn't we lesser beings forgive too?

If you find it very difficult to forgive everyone, forgive at least
three people.

Take care and remember me n my falimy in ur duas Insha-Allah...
Aameen

No comments:

Post a Comment